One may think that 'truth' is the basis of 'trust'. One may also argues that 'trust' can only be achieved when a relationship is based on 'truth and nothing but the truth'.
Many of us are simply NOT ready for the 'truth'. Marriages break down and friendship disintegrate upon revelation of 'truth'.
'Trust' is something that we earn. Not necessarily by always telling the 'whole truth' but rarely by telling lies. 'Truth' is something we volunteer at our discretion. Therefore, it requires wisdom to assess what level of truth or what components of 'truth' should be volunteered which will not break the 'trust' earned.
My above claim comes with one caveat; that if you decide not to reveal a certain 'truth' to your spouse or friend, then do not reveal that bit to anyone else. 'Trust' is a fragile thing! Betrayal of 'trust' is experienced when a certain 'truth' is found out from a third party!
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| Picture of Luqman taken by his brother Haziq, during a visit to the farm~! The villa behind the green gate is where I stay during my farm visit. That is the truth. What goes on behind the green gate is 'truth' which will be partly left untold. |
'Trusting' the ultimate 'Truth' is to place your whole trust and faith in God! I was watching the CNN news on the Libyan unrest when this particular point hit me bulls-eye. One of the rebels was heard saying to the CNN reporter, "We were trusting God and we were winning; Now we are placing our trust on NATO and we are losing!"
There is no beings alive which deserve our full trust. How can we, when we hardly trust ourselves!
'Truth' is for us to know, and to share at our discretion. 'Trust' has to be earned, and there is none which deserve our full trust except what has been laid for us in the AlQuran and the Al Hadith. Trust in God, He knows all of our 'truth!'.
Ciaow.
(Written from my BlackBerry while traveling to the farm tonight)
Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless device from Aljawal
Pp..to simplify it, I'd say one has to be truthful as much as possible so that one can be trusted..be it the spouse, sibling,children, friend or anybody for that matter..kan Pp.
ReplyDeleteIf a person is dishonest or lies far too often, the trust will diminish and ultimately be destroyed.
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waah Lukman berjalan macam dalam cerita koboi..at a ranch.:))
mamasita :-) to gain trust and to keep trust...one must never lie...cuma dont have to tell the whole truth lah...i call it selective truth.
ReplyDeleteLuqman is super cool....hehehe
Hi Pp, well written. I like your eloquence.
ReplyDeleteTrust, truth...Deciding whether or not to trust a person is like deciding whether or not to climb a tree, because you might get a wonderful view from the highest branch, or you might simply get covered in kerenga ants, and for this reason many people choose to spend their time alone and indoors, where it is harder to get a splinter.
I always give people my trust, it's up to them to break it.
And all my working life having employed many people from Senior Management to mechanics to secretaries, I have never looked at the resume. More than 300. Except 3.
And out of the 3,..... 2 disappointed me not living up to expectations.
I can see you're a good man, a good manager. Wayyyyy to go, Sir!
Have a nice day. Best regards.
Lee.
Mr Lee, what an honor to have u visiting. and thank you for your kind words.
ReplyDeletehaving been in H R for a long time myself, i can normally 'read' whether a candidate's resume speaks the truth within the first 3 minutes of interviewing. A dangerous thing to do...but it has proven to be quite accurate.
Same for a person's character. I tend to stay away from those i don't trust... ~!
have a good day!