How people treat their friends says a lot about them. Especially how they treat their friends in absence. There are people who take the initiatives to keep friendship alive and well. There are also who leave things to happen, and when things don't happen they are quite ready to dish out blames and play victims.
- When people start a friendship with some motives; hidden or declared, normally, the friendship will lasts for as long as the motives are not met. Once they get what they want, those 'friends' will disappear from your lives - sometimes even spreading some 'bad' things about you along the way.
- True friends have no motives other than to enjoy the company and to make the other happy. They are the very few people who we can rely on during good times as well as bad times. They are the ones who will drive across the country to be with you when you need them. They are the ones who will first come to your mind - when you have things to talk about with 'friends'.
- Younger people refer to a certain type of friendship as 'friendship with benefits'. Usually this sort of friendship has 'sexual' connotations. They mutually benefit from the other; perhaps one provides financial support and the other provides sexual favors. Islam prohibits this sort of friendship arrangement!
I really like this paragrapgh I read in an article found on the web. I quote:
You may visit the original article here."A true friend listens when we need to vent. They not only listen; they truly care. They won't tell you to shut up or that you're being immature and silly. They'll understand that you have an emotional need to get something off your chest so you can get past some pain in your life and therefore feel better.
Luqman with his friends
A true friend will never divulge those deep, dark secrets. When you confide in a true friend, no one will know that you're unhappy with your boss, your job , your lover, your spouse. A true friend will keep your secrets totally confidential.
A true friend will help you through the pain. A true friend will tell you gently when you're wrong. Appreciate that person; he or she is very rare in this world. Hold onto a true friend, and show them you care."
i wonder if i have been a true friend? only my friends can comment on that, kan?
ReplyDeletefriends also come & go, they stay or disappear, remain friends or become enemies. my mother once said, if u become enemies, never reveal secrets you once shared. be an worthy enemy.
tq for sharing :o)
Sya :-) your mother said some very wise words there Sya ...I like. Thanks for sharing
ReplyDeletePp..I am still searching for a true friend cum a true love..
ReplyDeleteInsyaAllah I'll ask God to give me one in front of the Holy Kaabah..and may my wish come true.Ameen.
Doa dari sejadah hari2 pun boleh kan but nothing beats standing right in front of the Holy Kaabah.:))
p.s. I've yet to become a true friend to anyone..it's not that simple..too much to sacrifice..shame on me! hehehe
mamasita :-) May your prayer be answered..and a true and dear friend may one day turns up and finds a special place within ur heart.
ReplyDeleteyea to be a true friend requires sacrifices...easier said than done.