Last week I posted my dilemma on my Facebook (FB) status. "How do I delete 'unwanted friends' from my FB list?" It is a dilemma brought to surface after I realized that there are so many people on my lists whom I have no clue what so ever of their identities! To make it even worse, I noticed that they are also on my children's lists - and my childrens' have accepted their requests because I appear as their common friend. Huh, and the most acidic of all factors, I realized too that a few of them do not even display their real pictures, and have no pictures of real family members, or real friends. Alarm bell rings!!!
Twice, friends of mine sent me messages asking, "Pp, so and so requested to be on my FB and you are the only common friend. Do you know him/her?" The answer to both, "No, I do not know any of them!"
Wise of my friends to have asked. Not wise of me to have added without first checking their authenticity!
Why am I being so paranoid? There could be no valid reasons what so ever. However there are possibilities, no matter how remote, of someone with bad intention have ended up as 'friends' on FB and got to see my personal photos, those of my family members, know where I live and what I do on almost daily basis, and what time I go to sleep, and what I eat, etc etc. No, I would not mind sharing those private information with friends, and by friends I meant someone whom I know and whose identity I can trace.
I have thought enough, and I still hesitate about deleting! I care not to hurt people's feelings. I worry that I may offend someone with genuine good intentions. I fear that I may miss the fun of reading some of those funny status statements. So, I have not yet deleted anyone...such feeble heart I have!
I googled for help, looking for tips from others. I found this link quite enlightening.
After reading the article in the link above, I have gathered just enough gut, and have increased my rational in doing what I need to do. Friendship, has a limit....if the value of friendship is to be preserved.
it's ok Pp, most of the time these fb strangers simply add ppl so that they'll have 500 fb frens!
ReplyDeletesometimes i'll just approve their request & have them as 'frens' for a 'trial' period of few months, then just delete them if these strangers don't offer, (as u put it) "funny status statements"! hihi. may look cruel but ntah2 they didn't even noticed that we deleted them, bcoz there's no notification like, "ariffin has deleted you from his friends list"
so take it easy, Pp! :)
aku selalu delete je org aku tak kenal or just add aku then terus diam. tapi slalunya awal2 lg aku mmg x approve frenship dr org tak kenal. settle kes :)
ReplyDeletesejak 2/3 hari ni duk berkira nak delete sorang fb fren ni akhirnya ...pagi ini masuk je fb terus delete dia ...lega rasa.
ReplyDeletePP, saya dah remove lama dah kawan yang "samar-samar" :).
ReplyDeletethere's a limit in something, right?? If you want them to be in your list, just add. if not, I guess you know what to do, right?
ReplyDeleteI see social networking site such as FB as for my keep-in-touch channel and its kinda works. Other than that, i will ignore request from someone that I dont know.
apa yang jadi kat saya harapnya jangan jadi kat orang lain...
ReplyDeletesaya post kisah saya down, sebab stress kerja. then saya cerita yang saya bangun solat malam minta petunjuk dari Allah. Lepas dhuha pagi tu, saya masih resah, tapi entah macammana saya okay je bila sampai ofis. ada kawan yang tahu keresahan saya hari sebelumnya dan dia terpegun tengok saya cool je. saya kata kat dia yang saya minta pada Tuhan.
Beberapa hari lepas tu saya kena marah. Kononnya saya tulis tentang rahsia pejabat dan saya siarkan to public. Siapa yang marah saya? Mat Saleh yang langsung x paham bahasa melayu...rupanya ada yang terlalu baik hati, tolong translate cerita saya dan bagitau kat mat saleh tu saya telah mempublish rahsia syarikat.
Orang macam syaitan tu ada di mana2 dan sentiasa mencari jalan untuk menjatuhkan dan mengaibkan kita dengan apa cara sekalipun. Saya serik untuk berblog menggunakan nama sebenar, dan saya delete semua kawan2 sepejabat yang ujud dalam senarai fb saya...walaupun ramai yang genuine sebenarnya!!!
Pp,
ReplyDeleteDid you get your kids to unfriend them as well? Macam stalker la pulak
Salam
ReplyDeleteI dont think I am gonna delete frens unless if they pose threat or becoming annoying to me. I would value the virtue of friendship whatever races they are, whereever they live and whosoever they are. If people give u and wanna become frens how can u push them and say well, lemme be on my own alone. If people do good,preferable I would expect me to do similar response. But if one annoys you then that's not worth of a facebook frens. Perhaps our friendship, despite being superficial facebook, it may mean a lot either this world or hereafter.