What Turns you ON? - Survey done!

?Updated with a BBQ dinner pictures - hosted a few friends over the weekend. Entertaining friends at home is one of my TURNs ON! Please scroll down.....

Black and White of hosts!

*ayah-nya dengan his trade-mark pose!*

What turns you on?

That was the question I asked in the previous posting.

I received more than 30 responses – a few were sent anonymously, but more than twenty were sent from known readers. From what were written, I can safely assume that all except for 3 were submitted by female readers – if anything, it is a normal representation of comments I have been receiving. The nature of the question, which was purposely left open and vague has caused some confusion, as one reader wrote, “What turns me on, what? Spiritually? Mentally or what? I assume what turns me on sexually then... wahahahahah. OK Let's say I have just made a fool of myself by understanding that, it is sexually... so then my answer will be like....I am a sucker for big breasts and nice & round butts. Wink!!! Now you know the wild side of me.” Yes brother....Now I know! hehehe, behind that calm disposition, you are a real devil hehehe!

Thank you to those who have candidly shared on what ‘TURNS them ON”. I have promised to keep their identities confidential and so it will remain that way. I am hoping now we can revert to an open forum of discussion, following this entry.

After understanding what was written and what were underlying message between the lines, I decided to present my finding in the following format.

People get turned on by “Being appreciated”. There were two comments which supported this category.

“A man who shows (once in awhile) appreciation of how much I care for him.”

“A man who knows how to treat a woman & makes her feel good, feel beautiful, feel worth it, feel special, shares his knowledge, teaches her new things ... satisfies her ...”

The reverse is probably true when partners and spouses do not appreciate each other – it kills the mood and can be a turn off.

Sometimes, it can be such simple gestures of appreciating the dinner which was cooked and served, complimenting the fresh smell of the bed cover, or even noticing the aromatic candles which she has lit in the bedroom.

A few find “Freshness, Being smart” such a Turn On! Comments received which belong to this category are,

“Freshly cut hair! rambut baru bbojeng tu lah” *doesn't she sounds like someone from Kelantan? hehehe*

“The smell of rain, bau baby lepas mandi, ....” *tips to fragrance manufacturer - more baby like smell please...... But, what is it about baby smell which turns people on?*

“The smell of his after shave – anywhere, anytime!”

“Hubby in a suit with a tie, shaven and smelling wonderfully nice.”

The best is probably a combination of all of the above – a man in suit who waits to have his hair cut and his face shaven on a rainy day, with generous dabs of baby talcum powder and fresh spray of her favorite after shave.

Irresistable!!

“Power …” is also a Turn On according to these people.

…the power to turn him on, “Listening to the heartbeat of your love one going fast in your present”

And another, “the thing that turns me on is knowing that I turn the one I love on.”

…the power to be dominant, as stated by one male reader, “…But if in another form of also sexually, I'd be pleased to see the sumbissiveness, total submission I shall say, on the other half.”

…a visual indication of power, as a female reader said it here, “… the flexing of muscles when it's working - for eg, bila tengok hubby working on something which using strength; sweat that glistened over the flexing muscles and slightly shows the urat2 yang timbul! whoaaaaa!”

And another one prefer to get wet on a wet day * pun intended* , “What makes me turned on even more would be his sweat running down the body...even on a wet and cold day”.

Many readers get TURNed ON by “Seducing acts” from a partner. I received the following comments …

“hot, passionate kisses ... all over!”, I can’t argue with that one!. This uptown girl seemed to have found the right man for her, “gentle rubbing of his finger on my palm, the way he caresses my hair, the way he whispers my name and the way he holds me close and the way his breath feels on my neck”. And guys, she is single and available.....*wink*

“ bila dia senyum manis sangat dan buat muka nakal-nakal..hehehehe”, said a female reader who was probably smiling herself while typing those words. Lucky gal!!!

One really naughty female reader who used a very suggestive nick name shared what turned her on fire….“….Then seeing him making his way to the bathroom naked.....him under a running shower....all wet and dripping...”

the same reader went on to add, ….”How I just love to get warm in that shower with him....grabbing and ****ing him all over would be a start...him ****ing my ****y till I just cant hold on much longer and there's just no stopping from there.....WOW!!!” ( I have to blank out the words to make them printable here…hehehe ).

A male reader described his fantasy, …”A svelte, attractive woman wearing only a pair of black lace panties”. Ladies, black is an ever-green color and lace always works !!

Not all are seduced with lewd sexy acts. Some find wit and humor as sexy too….as evident from the following comments,

“..a witty & intelligent mind but doesn't mind playing a fool sometimes is a turn on”

“a person who can laugh at himself or shares anything & everything he knows” *could not help but think, I can fit this description hehehe *

“an ok looking, intelligent man who can make me laugh with a tray of cupcakes wearing only an apron” *I bet you, this works for guys too - to have our ladies only in apron...walalala...who needs food!!*

Some prefer going back to basics with her hubby….. “Ermm jawapannya his passionate kiss. And his touch :P ok tak jawapan? And it only apply to my hubby only heheheh”. By the this lady has a good looking hubby, from what I can see in her blog.

One even mentioned ” body hair!” as a TURN ON! I can share that this came from a female reader who probably meant “Bulu Dada!” and not "bulu ketiak".

This one reader lets her own imagination TURNED her ON. She said, “ …What turns me on? ..actually thinking about him , already turns me on.”

For guys who has sufficient funds, TURN ON your women with money to spend. One female reader said, “ Nak participate jugak! Chocolate, preferably with hazel nut. How about mega sale? These two really turn me on.”

To get your return on Investment, just be sure you bring her immediately back to your bedroom after spending those big bucks at the mega sales!!

This one is cute. Probably the reader has read my previous entries about kuis kuis kaki…..hehehehe. She said, “Bila sidia kuis kuis kaki”

Even more basics, one female reader gets all tingly mingly whenever she is next to someone she loves, her husband, “when me and hubby watch tv side by side... ”

I wonder what sort of TV programs they watch??

“A Sailor 1911 pen with a Nagahara nib (medium nib-stroke)”, it can’t get more basics than that. A pen and books get him going!! He also said, “A complete collection of F. Scott Fitzgerald's work”

One reader puts others needs before hers, “my children's desire & needs mine n my another 1/2's desires” and she also gets TURNed ON by, “old memories”. Memories are made of special moments together......good on you lady!

There were three readers who came in to say they find the survey interesting but they themselves were not ready to share what TURNED them ON.

One wasn’t sure, “actually i nak bagi pendpt gak tapi tiba2 rasa konpius dgn maksud tu.. sbb rasanya ayat tu boleh digunapakai utk macam2 benda/hal, kan?so i tunggu je le abg id buat n3 psl tu hehehe.. :)”

Another want some reassurance that , “Err betul ke anonymous ni”. She however added her contribution of what turns her on.

This female reader who is always in a state of TURNED ON, prefer to stay private,

” bak kata tok siti (not dr siti hasmah but siti hurhaliza, the penyanyi); biarlah rahsia...ahaks! how's that? Hehehehe” hehehehe to you too, you naughty woman!!

One female reader found the survey itself was such a TURN ON, she had to put off answering it because she had to attend to more urgent matter down below *pun intended too*. She said, ”I have till Thursday right? i'll come back if i have more ;-)u got my juices running (pun intended) hehehe” A lucky husband owe me big time here, if only he knew what started his wife on fire!

One reader from the East Coast dropped by and said, “salam, heheh..segan nak jawab. biarlah rahsia. lama tak ke sini hrp bro n famili sihat walafiat. cantik dah blog ni”

One KL lady came but said, “saje datang nak melawat...lama tak melawat! Lepas tu kena jawab soalan pulak...ape ek? tak leh cakap kot...rahsia...take care!”

One reader is so lucky, she is easily turned on with a zillion things…..she said,

“ ha ha ha apa punya survey nih...hmmm theres like zillionzzz things that turns me oN!!!well the top 3 goes to 1) Muscular Men 2) Gift3) Fights... ( Idham’s : Pillow fight ka ni ? )and I am leaving you to do all the interpretation.”

My name was not mentioned by any readers as a source of a hot fantasy *sigh*. However, these three guys from the Bronx figured on the mind of one female reader,

“Matt Damon, Ewan McGregor, Brad Pitt. *sigh* ;)”

Me *sigh* too…..hehehe.

And one happily married lady wants, “a good looking, well built hot blooded man who can bake a good choc cake & make a mean pasta dish” as well as “ a man who can sing & play an instrument - a guitar or saxophone”

Ermmm, aren’t you getting a bit wishful there ma’am?

It was fun for me to read and compile all of your inputs. Thank you. I hope you will gain as much fun reading the compiled version, and even better - in adding to the comments now that we are back to an open forum. The comment is no longer moderated. May our libido continue to " get all juiced up...."! errr, or should it reads, .....all juiced out!

**** One of my Turns On is....entertaining!

This weekend, we had the families of Mr H, Dr R and Mr N over for BBQ. In fact since the start of good weather, we have been having BBQ every weekend, either being invited out to friends house or inviting friends over. In any case - we enjoy time together as a family and tiume spent with close friends. Adie ( Along ), Achik, and my MIL have arrived from KL and their presence added to the fun.

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The last guests left well past mid-night. I switched off the bedroom light - fully TURNED ON and a happy man!